on self-compassion

I believe that the best therapeutic thing we can do is to create a loving relationship with ourselves.

‘Self love’ are words people throw around - but what does that really mean?! It’s not about getting a pedicure or treating yourself, it’s about the way we speak to ourselves and the boundaries we are allowed to make with others and ourselves. It’s a fuck yes or a holy no. It’s respecting yourself like the sacred ground you are.

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Ok, so what does that actually look like?!

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Here are two very practical things you can do every day that I started a couple years ago ( and still do sometimes) that I believe were part of a life changing current in my life.

Before I went to sleep, I would say, out-loud, “I love you Jessie” but not just say it. I would stay with it until I felt it. Until I genuinely appreciated something about myself in that moment and could notice what that felt like in my body.

The second thing I did was before I got out of bed I would lay there until I could believe that life was on my side. That the currents of life were wanting to help me. This didn’t mean things wouldn’t be hard and I was bypassing into some inauthentic lovenlight idea. I was being curious about this actually true. Looking for ways it might be.

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So much of current day therapy focuses on fixing the problem, and we can get in a rut ( for years or lifetimes) believing that we are that problem, and dear one, that’s simply not true.
You are not a problem to be fixed, you are a unique and mysterious expression of life!